Raising Children to Support Gender Equality with Kyl Myers
Kyl Myers is a sociologist, educator and the author of Raising Them: Our Adventure in Gender Creative Parenting.
The Unspoken Topic
- Adult gender inequalities are getting their start and are perpetuated in childhood. If we gave children more gender freedom and explicitly taught children to be anti-sexist, we could really boost the speed at which our society could progress toward gender equality and celebrating gender diversity.
What We Cover
- How to examine gender socialization.
- Ways to dismantle social inequalities by how we raise our children.
- How to expose children to various gender traits.
Take a Listen >>
- Providing a counter-narrative to the media your child is exposed to so they can truly see their options is one way to create gender equality.
- It’s okay to examine the discomfort that these gender options bring up for us. This is a great opportunity for you to think through your own socialization.
- Parents get to choose whether or not their children inherit the same sexism and gender stereotypes that have been passed down to us through generations.
- If we want our children to have a more equitable adulthood, we have to put in the work to make sure they have a more equitable childhood.
- You don’t have to jump all-in with gender-neutral parenting but you can teach your child this inclusive vocabulary and inclusive options to help them feel open to whoever they become. To empathize with others and to have all the opportunities as everyone else.
- Pay attention to the science that gender stereotypes are learned so young that 6-year-old girls are even buying into the idea that boys are smarter.
How to Incorporate Gender-Creative Parenting
- Start with educating your child with an inclusive vocabulary. Some people have two moms, some people have two dads, some have non-binary parents. There is a spectrum of genders like boys, girls, non-binary, genderqueer, etc.
- When speaking of genitals, try, “people with penises, people with vaginas.”
- When speaking about occupations, try, “firefighter, stay at home parent, police person, etc.”
- When shopping for clothes, expose them to the entire store. Let them choose the clothes and toys they’re drawn to.
- Model to children, “I am here to support you and give you options.”
- You can start this at birth, or whenever it feels right to you.
How to Stay Connected to Your Partner
- Schedule dates, get a sitter, take the time to keep getting to know each other. Wake up early to share coffee just the two of you.
- “Church” which is walking down the street to a coffee shop on weekend mornings.
Kyl’s Gift For You
Oooh this gift is so incredible because even if you’re not on board to raising a child who is gender-neutral, the dialogue around the subject can truly make for a more connected world.
Mama Has a Minute
- Favorite form of self-care: Massages and getting a drink with a friend.
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- Share 1 product your children cannot live without: Their bikes.
- Share 1 book: “My Maddie.”
- What motherhood means to you: Parenthood means creating an environment where a child can be unconditionally loved and supported for who they are.
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