Reconnecting with Your Partner After Having a Baby with Meygan Caston
Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage 365, a nonprofit dedicated to helping couples connect on a deeper level.
They reach 3 million people each month with a variety of resources including an app and their book series 365 Connecting Questions.
She and her husband have been married for 16 years, have 2 kids and love the beach!
The Unspoken Topic
- Once couples have children, their marriage begins and stays on autopilot and they start drifting apart emotionally because they are no longer prioritizing their relationship.
What We Cover
- The number one thing your relationship needs in order to survive. If you lose this, forget about having a solid marriage.
- How to have honest and diplomatic conversations with your spouse, even if they are complete opposite of you.
- Tools and tactics on how to communicate effectively.
Take a Listen >>
- When one person is lonely in a marriage, the other person is lonely too.
- Loneliness is one of the scariest places to be in a marriage.
- We can’t let children consume our life.
- We tend to stop having boundaries when we have kids.
- Make sure to connect with your partner on a deep level for at least 10 minutes a day.
- All of the phases with kids will pass so be graceful with one another and enjoy each phase.
- Communication struggles are common because people have a hard time identifying and asking for what they need and want.
- We assume that our spouse should know what we want and it’s not fair to them.
- You can only control your own attitude, actions and words.
- Self-aware people make healthy spouses.
- You are never responsible for how your spouse responds. That’s on them.
How to Connect With Your Partner
- First and foremost, make a list of babysitters so you have it handy for things like self-care, date nights and intimacy. Utilize it!
- Connect for 10 minutes a day on an emotional level. Hug, kiss or ask meaningful questions that don’t pertain to how their day was or anything about the kids. Connect as individual people.
- Give each other grace. Time is fleeting and the phases pass. Be graceful with one another.
- When you are going to tackle a difficult task or conversation, say “Team (last name)” to remind each other that you’ve got this and are on the same team.
How to Communicate Effectively with Your Partner
- When it comes to identifying your needs, self-awareness is key. Make time for a self-awareness practice for 10 minutes a day. Meditation, deep breathing, intentional walk, etc.
- Make a list of what you need from your spouse. Write it all down.
- Ask yourself if it’s realistic to ask of this from your spouse.
- Practice saying what you need in the mirror. You need to exercise this muscle so you can communicate effectively.
- Always check your attitude before speaking with them. Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
How to Make it Work With Someone Who is a Complete Opposite
- It starts with self-awareness. The more you know your strengths and weaknesses and what triggers you, the more confident you become.
- The more confident you become, the easier it is to know why your partner is how they are.
- We struggle to connect with people because of the negative thoughts we have about them. To change that, write down a list of what you love, appreciate and admire about your partner. That will change your thoughts about them.
- Respect is the only way a marriage will last. Make sure to be respectful when you communicate.
Hardest Decision To Make as a Mom
- Working on Marriage 365 and cutting family time because she always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.
A-Ha Moment About Parenting
- Children weren’t born knowing how to navigate their emotions. It’s our job to model the emotions and how to handle them. It’s never too late.
Most Excited About
- Future topics they will be covering at Marriage 365. Topics like sex and porn and the effects it has on a marriage, depression and transitioning from a couple to a family of 3.
Sometimes it’s difficult to connect with your partner or your family because you are just so exhausted at the end of the day. We get in the habit of just asking surface-level questions like how our day was or talking about the weather.
Thankfully, Meygan has put together a few books about how to deeply connect with your spouse or your kids. Whichever book you decide you need, you’ll receive 20% off at checkout!
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Mama Has a Minute
- Favorite form of self-care: Spa day.
- Best parenting advice ever received: Sleep train your kids from the very beginning.
- Share your favorite parenting hack: When you’re hosting a sleepover for your kids and their friends, move the clocks forward one hour so they still get plenty of rest.
- Recommend one product your children cannot live without: Audiobooks.
- Share your favorite book and why: 365 Connecting Questions for Families because it’s a great way to get to know what’s going on with your kids. Questions cover bullying in school and what they are learning.
- What motherhood means to you: Motherhood is the hardest journey ever- it is filled with the good, the bad and the ugly. You will have great days and you will have the worst of days. But she is grateful for being a mom and that her kids are so forgiving.
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