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How to Raise Compassionate Children That Are Global Citizens and Socially and Emotionally Intelligent with Ryanne Plaisance
Ryanne began her career as a teacher in Chicago working with homeless families where she became interested in our education system and how it supports all children.
In the next few years, she moved to Los Angeles where she continued working with homeless children in the foster care system and in private school settings.
As a teacher and curriculum developer who’s worked with kids in preschool to high school, she spent time dreaming about a school that would allow her to provide children with an environment that catered to each of them.
She studied other school models nationally and internationally and spent time working in administration and policy, but the change was slow and she often wondered where her two daughters would attend school.
She wanted them to attend a language immersion school that focused on the arts as much as it did language acquisition.
She wanted her kids to learn biology by working with scientists in nature.
She wanted them to become global citizens.
She wanted them to be socially and emotionally intelligent.
She wanted them to find meaning in their work and education.
And in 2015, her and her partner opened the preschool called City Kids in Los Angeles. And in 2 years later, opened up the elementary school.
The Unspoken Topic
- We are not our children’s best teachers because it’s hard for us to see their mistakes as a needed part of their development. And in order to turn those mistakes into learning moments, we need to learn not to take their behavior personally.
What We Cover
- How to plant seeds in our children to become socially and emotionally intelligent.
- Why we take our children’s behavior personally and how to stop doing it.
- How COVID will affect our children.
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Key Takeaways
- We often see our children as an extension of ourselves. We take the blame and credit for their wins and their losses.
- We have a higher expectation for them than ourselves sometimes because we put so much time into raising them and when we make mistakes, it feels like our failure.
- Repetition of working through mistakes and supporting them through it is what helps them learn and creates a platform of trust for a lifetime with you.
- In order to raise kids that grow to be compassionate and resilient adults, we must see them as their own people and allow them to mess up.
- Every child is different and there is no one way to parent a child.
- If a child comes from a home that has no boundaries or structure, they struggle to understand their place, where their limits are, what a safe place is and how to feel secure.
Actionable Solutions
How to Navigate a Mistake Your Child Makes
- Be mindful and willing to accept that our children need to make mistakes, this is how they learn.
- We cannot support our children to learn through these mistakes if we take them personally or deny them.
- Help them understand what the mistake was, why they made it, what they are feeling.
- The goal is to help them identify what led them to make the mistake without blame or shame.
- Ask them to come up with other solutions for that mistake.
What Do You Think The Social-Emotional Effects of Isolation Will be For Our Children During COVID-19?
She believes it will have a big effect. We need to come up with a way that allows kids to not be in complete isolation from their peers because the way children learn the best is with engaging with their peers.
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- Share your favorite parenting hack: Have breakfast ready in the morning for her kids.
- Share 1 product your children cannot live without: Dolls.
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- What motherhood means to you: Motherhood is the most joyful, exhilarating, exhausting rollercoaster ride that she wouldn’t give up for anything in this world.
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