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Not Your Mother's Podcast Parenting Positive Discipline

Ep. 35: The Secret To Raising Kids You Like with Wendy Snyder

The Secret To Raising Kids You Like with Wendy Snyder PIN

The Secret to Raising Kids You Like with Wendy Snyder

Wendy Snyder is a positive parenting teacher and family coach, helping families parent with great purpose and intention by creating healthy, respectful and cooperative relationships. 

She is a certified parent educator of the “The Joy of Parenting” program and “Redirecting Children’s Behavior” and an advocate for families.

The Unspoken Topic

  • Parents are surprised at how hard parenting can become. They all hit a point of hopelessness and defeat and often it takes a while to get to the point of figuring out what to do. This season of life can be dark if you don’t get support because you feel like your family is the only one suffering.

What We Cover

  • The number one thing parents need to do in order for their kids to listen to them.
  • Steps on how to conquer power struggles with strong-willed kids.
  • How to stop your babe from biting and what it means when they do it.

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Key Takeaways

  • Your child will start making changes once you start making changes. Your kids are always observing and listening.
  • Families think they are alone on this journey and feel embarrassed and shame that they’re dealing with behavior issues, but it’s actually really common to have strong-willed kids.
  • You need to first admit and humble yourself and surrender to your situation before you’re actually able to make any changes.
  • It’s a good sign when your kids act up at home because that means you have set up a home of unconditional love and they feel safe to express their not-so-pretty emotions. We all do it.
  • Say yes to learning. It’s OK to not know how to handle the challenging seasons of parenthood. 
  • Having a paradigm shift is one of the biggest hurdles parents struggle with. We are programmed to punish, bribe, shame, take away. Positive discipline is the opposite of that and teaching the kids to have power within limits.
  • When children misbehave, it just means they are trying to communicate.
  • Consistency is key when you are setting limits and boundaries.
 

Actionable Solutions

 How to Handle Power Struggles with Strong-Willed Kids

  • Come from a place of curiosity.  
  • When kids push back, give them more power, but within limits. This will allow them to exercise their desire. For example, if they want to play with a cupboard in the kitchen, create one for them that is safe for them to play with, rather than saying NO.
  • Focus on prevention. Build a relationship with them and be proactive before you get locked into combat, which turns into revenge.
  • Offer choices instead of complaint statements. Questions with choices fills up the power bucket for kids because kids love to know the answer. Questions also engage critical thinking skills.
 

How to Deal With Biters

  • If a child starts to bite (for instance, during nursing) remove them from the breast, put them in their pack & play, go wash some dishes or do another task and then go back and ask if they are ready to nurse.
  • Set a limit that they are not to bite during nursing and continue.
  • If they do it again, repeat the process.
  • Continue the process until the limit is established. 
  • Never get upset or shame or guilt them. The goal is to remain neutral but firm with the limit.
 

If biting happens during a play date….

  • It is typically a form of communication- frustration, anger, etc.
  • Set the firm limit, that they are not to bite their friends and that we do not communicate that way.
  • Help the child that was bitten and assure the parent that you are working with your child to not bite.
  • Teach your child sign language so they have a tool to communicate.
  • Books are also great to teach children about this. Check out “Teeth are Not For Biting.” 

 

 

 

Hardest Decision To Make as a Mom

  •  No video games in the house because a lot of these games are pretend murder games. They don’t want their children day dreaming of the games. Also, no tech that involves social media until the kids are older.

Wendy’s Gift

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Mama Has a Minute 

  • Favorite form of self-care: Sleep.
  • Best parenting advice ever received: Listen.
  • Share your favorite parenting hack: Do you want to run like a cheetah to the car or a race horse.
  • Recommend one product your children cannot live without: Sandals
  • Share your favorite book and why: Jesus the Gentle Parent because it helps parents apply positive parenting with Christian scripture.
  • What motherhood means to you: Motherhood is leaning into the incredible gift of raising precious human beings that have been entrusted in our care.

 



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